Zara Answers: “Help, My Mom’s a Control Freak! What Do I Do?”

Young children may have no choice, but adult children do not have to suffer from parental control. Yes, adults must honor their parents, but we should also understand the context of the Biblical commandment; which was not written as a parents ticket to forever control their child.

Amidst failed or repeated attempts to reach a controlling mom, you may not believe in workable solutions to help you better deal with her abuse of control. However, there are a few—and it is up to you to free yourself from the unhealthy burden in a way that respects her position, yet also respects the validity of your adulthood.

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Know Your Child’s Learning Type

Know Your Child’s Learning Type

Most of us have a natural way of picking up new info — we learn best either by listening, looking, or doing. Once you know your child’s learning personality, you can understand how their brain works best. Then, play to their strengths in order to maximize school potential.

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What You Need to Know About Standardized Testing

What You Need to Know About Standardized Testing

Since No Child Left Behind in 2001, standardized testing has become increasingly excessive in our school system. The high stakes and high costs have parents and educators wondering if we’re focused too much on testing and not enough on teaching. In 2011, a cheating scandal was exposed involving 178 Atlanta Public Schools’ teachers and principals. While admittedly one of the largest, it was not the first nor the last in response to the increasing pressure placed on schools by standardized tests. So…to test, or not to test? That is the question.

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Homeschooling By the Numbers

Homeschooling By the Numbers

Across the United States homeschooling has been overlooked and underrated by many. Diving deeper into student performance and the environments of homeschooling households, it is clear that homeschoolers have risen to the occasion and met the expectations of recruiting Universities and American workforce.

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How American Homeschoolers Measure Up

How American Homeschoolers Measure Up

Once upon a time, all children were homeschooled. But around 150 years ago states started making public school mandatory and homeschooling eventually became illegal. It wasn’t until the 90’s that all states made it legal again. Today, with more than 2 million homeschoolers making up 4% of the school-aged population, it’s the fastest growing form of education in the country.

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Mom, Let Go of Control: Dad Can Help

A mother’s newfound care for her newborn can make it difficult to release control—even to the father. In fact, some fathers feel left out when it comes to the care of a new baby. Because most fathers have compassion for their children, they want opportunities to bond. When dad cannot connect with baby because of mom’s control, he tends to feel rejection. Dad’s transition into a more hands-on paternal role, depends greatly on mom’s release of control.

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“She’s A Better Mom!”

Sometimes we believe the illusion that other moms have it all together—and it can definitely spawn envy. The root of that envy is usually covetousness. When we covet others, we put immense pressure on ourselves to live up to false expectations. We must renew our outlook, focus on our worth, and deal with our doubts to combat covetousness.

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Do Or Don’t?: The Second Pregnancy

Whether a first pregnancy was planned, many new moms make deliberate considerations before the chance of a second pregnancy. Financial considerations and time of space in-between siblings, usually plays a major role in the decision. With money and time factors to consider, a mother may think she can best control the decision. Mom’s who believe God, on the other hand, must recognize who controls their best future.

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New Baby, Changed Relationships

A new baby may change the familiarity of certain relationships. Those relationships can include friends, family members, and even your spouse. It takes work to maintain a relationship up against the adjustments that come with the birth of your newborn. Thankfully, total dependence on God can counter the job.

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Zara Talks to Multi-Million Selling Author Shaunti Feldhahn: Communication Tips Proven to Work

Zara Talks to Multi-Million Selling Author Shaunti Feldhahn: Communication Tips Proven to Work

Former Wall Street analyst Shaunti Feldhahn, is now a best-selling author, speaker, and nationally syndicated columnist—widely recognized for her in-depth research on relationships. One of her very popular books, “For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men,” sold over a million copies. I asked Shaunti to speak with me about how men and women can better communicate in love relationships. Our interview made one thing clear, healthy communication has to do with God more than anything else.

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