[WATCH] Biblical Submission

Marriage can feel miserable when submission is taken out of context and enforced on either spouse. Learn how to practice submission when you watch “Biblical Submission,” on this episode of Zara Talks!

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[WATCH] 15 Things to Do So You Don’t Have Sex

Studies show couples who have sex before they get married end up with less pleasurable sex lives compared to those who wait until marriage. Regardless of such useful information, it’s still a real struggle for many people. Usually it’s because they’re more focused on what they can’t do than what they can. So it’s good to know Biblical guidelines like those outlined in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, but even better when it’s used as a tool to reinforce you positively.

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[WATCH] Before You Cheat

Find out how porn addiction and temptations of attention outside our marriage lead us to discover the power of confession, in this Zara Talks episode—which my husband dropped in on. I trust the stories and application suggestion at the end of the video will help you mature and grow your relationship or marriage.

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[VIDEO] Answers For Married Couples: How Do You Work Through the Porn Addiction Of a Spouse?

Watch the first of many questions answered in this new video segment series: Answers For Married Couples, presented by Love-Life, Inc. Eshon Burgundy and Zara Hairston will answer your questions about marriage in 3 mins or less—monthly! Subscribe to the YouTube channel for video notifications, and send questions to: questions@love-life-inc.com for a chance to see you question featured.

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Single Blues? Here’s Some Help!

Time ticks. Days pass. Friends hook up. You? Still single. Even though it’s your choice to remain single, instances occur when you feel disheartened. Those feelings sometimes stir up questions about the future of your life and the length of your singleness. “Is there somebody for me?” “How long before that perfect person comes my way?” Those kinds of thoughts repeat themselves—mostly centered on doubt.

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Can’t Afford Your Wife & Kids? 5 Things That Can Help

Barely keeping up with partially paid bills and piling debts can sometimes invite bull-dog debt collectors—how overwhelming for the loving husband and father. In such situations, it is easy to feel powerless. Some men give up and lose hope while others pursue illegal activity to combat the financial strain, but neither result well. So what does a man do when he is drowning in lack with a family who depends on him to fix it?

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Are You Arguing Too Much?

Couples argue about everything from children and housework to money and sex—even the best marriage counselors and love guru’s have conflict about these same things in their own relationships. Conflict-free relationships do not exist, so it’s no cause for alarm if you and your mate have arguments. The danger, however, is when those arguments become destructive.

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3 Marriage Cycles: Which One Are You In?

If you could only have one what would you choose: love or respect? Research data in Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, “For Women Only,” concludes that most men choose respect while most women prefer love. Ironically, many couples don’t even recognize their spouse’s primary need, and think sex, money or in-law problems keep them from having a good marriage. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs of Love and Respect Ministries have decoded though, that the state of any marriage has much to do with recognizing certain cycles that involve love and respect.

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Spice Up Your Marriage: A 7-Day Tip Sheet

Nearly 50 percent of married couples get divorced. A variety of factors contribute to this overwhelming rate, but just one factor can help that rate decline: romance. Romance in a marriage takes communication, concentrated attention and selflessness, all things that can contribute to divorce when taken for granted. Couples can heat up their marriage by getting romantic in simple ways every day, in turn moving them further and further from the possibility of divorce.

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Zara Talks About Cheating Men, In 60 Seconds

You probably hear the popular belief that “all men cheat,” on talk and radio shows, television, and even amongst your peers. As a matter of fact, you yourself might even believe it is true. Whether you think all men cheat, some men cheat, or your views are somewhere in-between, the Bible has key evidence to dispute the popular belief altogether. Listen to this 60-second HeartCheck to find out.

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Prevent Loneliness: 15 Tips

What exactly makes you lonely? “Lonely,” according to Merriam Webster’s dictionary, is defined as “being company-less, cut off from other people and/or full of bleak-like feelings.” In that case, a definite way to combat loneliness includes doing things that involve others or at least that inspire a sense of inclusion.

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Is Your Engagement Relationship Healthy? Check These 5 Things!

Making it past the single life, through the dating experience, and into an exclusive relationship is almost like nearing a marathon finish line. When marriage is just a step or two away and you have already come so far, it is easy to overlook things figuring you can fix them after the wedding—very unwise. Use the commitment or engagement to fix anything broken because a whole new marathon begins once you get married, and it is the longest one you will ever run.

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Zara Talks About Why It Still Hurts, In 60 Seconds

Does the heartbreak still hurt you? Are you struggling to move on from what occurred due to their betrayal? Sometimes we just bask in our heartbreak, without stopping to ask why we are still hurting. So, why are you hurting after all this time? In this 60-second HeartCheck, find out one reason that could be causing your hurt to stay at a standstill.

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How Healthy Is Your Marriage? Check These 5 Things!

Failing to treat a little finger cut can end up costing you your finger. The same thing applies to marriage. Of course things like physical, verbal or mental abuse show signs of an ailing marriage—but other seemingly small factors put a marriage in that category too. It is always wise to give your marriage a health checkup or evaluation at least yearly to treat and prevent problems from growing out of control.

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Getting a Handle on Love

Love challenges everyone. Whether you’re looking for love as a single or trying to figure out where it went in your marriage, everybody needs help getting a handle on it from time to time.

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Keep the Fire in Your Marriage: 20 Tips

When a physical fire goes out at night it is difficult to see anything clearly. The same holds true when your marriage loses its fire (especially in hard times). Romance cures it and it does not have everything to do with spending money. In fact, most romantic endeavors require no or very little money.

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Zara Talks About Being A “Fool For Love,” In 60 Seconds

We hear all kinds of simple sayings like, “Easy As 1-2-3,” and “Sweet As Pie,” without really investigating their meaning. However, when it comes to terms like “Fool For Love,” we might want to slow down and think about what we are truly saying. Find out why “Fool For Love,” is a bad term, and the reason we should stop using it, in this 60-second HeartCheck.

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Answers: “My Friend Wants More, But I’m Married. What Now?”

Friendship can become burdensome when it leaves a marital bond at stake. Typically, a friend who contributes positively to your friendship, adds to your other relationships too. For instance, the lending ear of a girlfriend might help you better confront your husband about a sensitive issue. However, marriages often get put in the backseat when a spouse gives a less significant relationship priority. Resolve the risks associated with any such friendship in order to maintain your marital covenant.

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4 Tips That Benefit Your Dating Life

Anybody who has ever been on a few dates most likely can share a story about their worst date. This proves that everyone is not appropriate dating material or prepared to date effectively. The point of dating is to use a process of elimination as a means to find or be found by your future spouse (so make it clear to every date that you are entitled to and do date other people). Consequently, you should never go out with someone carelessly.

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Before the Wedding: 10 Tips

If things like prenuptial agreements, dress and tuxedo shopping, or invitations and event planning outweigh a sense of respect for the covenant of marriage, your focus is off. Marriage is too serious a commitment to be downplayed by excitement over the wedding. The wedding is just one day but the marriage is meant to last a lifetime. It is not that the engagement cannot incite celebration—but because engagement precedes marriage, material things never top the list as more important when it comes down to the two.

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