“I don’t think the way you think. The way you work isn’t the way I work.” Isaiah 55:8 (MSG)


Time ticks. Days pass. Friends hook up. You? Still single. Even though it’s your choice to remain single, instances occur when you feel disheartened. Those feelings sometimes stir up questions about the future of your life and the length of your singleness. “Is there somebody for me?” “How long before that perfect person comes my way?” Those kinds of thoughts repeat themselves—mostly centered on doubt.

The more you dwell on what you can’t figure out, the wider you swing the door open for unhealthy influence and further uncertainty. Getting closer to God brings a sense of security—even when you have no clue what He’s doing. He’s made it clear in Isaiah 55:8 that He works on a whole other realm than you do, but the good part is He’s thinking about you and working in your favor still (Jeremiah 29:11). So, replace those doubt-filled questions with definite statements, and leave the rest up to Him.

Think instead, “I know there is someone for me and I pray they’re getting ready for me just like I’m getting ready for them” and “I’m focusing on the here and now, I trust that I will have what I’m supposed to have, when I’m supposed to have it because God has my best interest at heart.”


Lord You know what You’re doing, but sometimes my finite mind tries to figure out things that aren’t for me to know yet. Whether I understand what’s happening in this single life of mines is not more important than the fact that my life itself is in Your hands. Help me to remember that Your infinite thoughts and ways may not always make sense or be clear, but that You will show me what I need to know when I need to know it. In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen.

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Zara Answers: "Being Single Makes Me Depressed. What Do I Do?

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