What exactly makes you lonely? “Lonely,” according to Merriam Webster’s dictionary, is defined as “being company-less, cut off from other people and/or full of bleak-like feelings.” In that case, a definite way to combat loneliness includes doing things that involve others or at least that inspire a sense of inclusion.
1. Acknowledge your access to God through Christ. A life given to Him is one that’s never alone. If you can trust anybody’s word it’s God’s—He promises in Isaiah 41:10 and 41:13 to never leave you by yourself and to be your help.
2. Start collecting funny DVDs. Laughter is company in a sense because it moves you emotionally. Since loneliness is more a “feeling” of being alone than it is actually being alone, replacing those emotions and feelings with laughter makes a crucial difference.
3. Get a pet. Pets make great unconditional companions. Depending on your schedule and lifestyle that could range from a traditional mammal to some type of reptile.
4. Further develop specific life goals. Whatever you do well, use up time to advance it to greatness.
5. Gain a new skill or hobby. Learning something new forces you to focus time and energy positively; and also makes the days go faster so you cruise through single-hood instead of suffering through it.
6. Stay in good casual company with friends and family as a way to remain aware of and temper solitude. Always being alone and cut off from people is like solitary confinement; too much isolation is emotionally and socially harmful.
7. Understand that you won’t always be single. If you desire a relationship but hold the one you have with God more highly, Psalm 37:4 says He’ll give you the desires of your heart.
8. Appreciate the time alone since it won’t always be as readily available. Things like children and spousal responsibilities fill up a schedule pretty quickly and leave little room for “alone time.”
9. Help someone through hardship, possibly a senior citizen, to keep your mind off your own. You might even spark an unexpected friendship.
10. Volunteer at an organization. Working with a team or group of people towards something bigger than you, makes your loneliness look small.
11. Work additional hours or get another job if you have the time, and use the extra money towards a personal reward for yourself. You might purchase cruise tickets or get that expensive gadget you’ve wanted to compliment a hobby, talent or skill.
12. Join a club. Depending on your availability, you might choose a sports club that meets weekly or a book club that meets monthly.
13. Keep your schedule fairly full yet balanced. Some alone time is healthy for things like prayer—but like the saying goes, “An idol mind is the devils playground,” and so is an idol lifestyle.
14. Pay more attention to what makes your life full more than what makes it lonely; perhaps by appreciating those friends and family members in your corner.
15. Celebrate your single-hood. It’s hard to get bogged down by something worth celebrating. So find the things worth celebration.