Anybody who has ever been on a few dates most likely can share a story about their worst date. This proves that everyone is not appropriate dating material or prepared to date effectively. The point of dating is to use a process of elimination as a means to find or be found by your future spouse (so make it clear to every date that you are entitled to and do date other people). Consequently, you should never go out with someone carelessly.


According to Merriam Webster’s dictionary the ability to discern means you are able to “detect with senses other than vision.” This gift is developed best through an intimate relationship with God; who grants you access to His Holy Spirit and tells you things to come, urges, and unctions you toward the right direction (1 John 2:20, John 16:13). Without the ability to discern, the dating experience is very dangerous.


Whenever a person dates for attention instead of on purpose they forfeit the chances of having a meaningful dating experience. Usually, this kind of insecurity comes from not having recognized personal worth and it takes very little to impress such people. You cannot effectively decide, recognize or respond correctly when you are insecure, and those are three must-haves for healthy dating.


Remain focused on your purpose and (especially at this point) do not devote your life to making theirs better. Thinking that will entitle or persuade them to be with you is foolish, selfish, and immature. If you are easily moved off the God-given track your life is on, in order to get on theirs, you should not be dating yet.

Free From Fornication

As soon as you have sex with someone you are not married to it makes it hard to see them and the relationship clearly (1 Corinthians 6:18). That kind of physical connection is meant to insert an emotional stamp of confirmation that it is okay to be one; which is why it is reserved for marriage. A healthy dating life does not look like marriage. Dating gets seriously difficult when it has been confused by sex out of its time and place.

***This is not an all–inclusive list.

References Discern Benefits in Delaying Sex Until Marriage

Resources A New Kind of Date Rape

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