Most people know more singles than married couples. Even the latest Census Bureau data proves it true reporting 96.6 million singles living in America; a number well over the 60.8 million married couples. While it’s a fact that millions live single lives, who knows how many actually experience a healthy one (or if they even understand what that means). Yet and still, it’s crucial to recognize a healthy single life and experience it firsthand.
Privy to the Power
Single-hood was designed for a purpose. Many overlook the purpose of being single distracted by temptations like loneliness and sex. 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 says, “The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God.” Time alone with God (highly key to living a healthy single life) makes you powerful because it builds you into a whole person so you know how to serve another person effectively. When you haven’t gone through that phase you’re not properly powered to succeed in a relationship.
Free From Anxiety
Staying in a bad relationship to avoid the single life, complaining about single-hood and feeling insecure when unattached reveals anxiety at root. Anxious they won’t find a better relationship, that they’ll live single forever or that something is wrong with being single, a lot of singles end up making bad choices out of fear. Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God.” It’s a definite sign that your single life is healthy when you’re not anxious about it.
Luke 14:28 warns, “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it?” Since the main purpose of single-hood includes the pursuit of wholeness, healthy singles understand the costs associated with a relationship; un-whole people don’t have what it takes to partner in one. Men and women must prepare in different ways, but the basics include a sense of personal, spiritual and financial maturity.
Celibacy and single-hood should go hand-in-hand even though that’s not the case in today’s world. Whether the majority does something, however, has nothing to do with its validity. 1 Corinthians 6:18 shares, “Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never become one.” Therefore, a definite tell-tale sign of a healthy single life depends significantly on the presence of sexual purity.
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Editor-In-ChiefZara Hairston is a modern-day renaissance woman who uniquely draws people to the Cross of Christ through teaching, writing and speaking. She holds a bachelor of arts in Journalism from Temple University, and a master of arts in Christian Counseling from Jacksonville Theological Seminary—where she was also ordained. Hairston's organizations include Love-Life, Inc., YourHeartShape, Moms In Christ, BComingMe, Sister Keepers and Arrow Spring Academy. Currently, she resides in the Atlanta area with her husband Anton "Eshon Burgundy" Hairston and their three children.